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“Speak up!”

Speak up!”

              If I had a dollar for every time I heard those words, I’d be a millionaire by now. We live in an extrovert world that bullies the quiet, the socially anxious. A world where the outspoken are celebrated and the reticent are shamed. A world that constantly attempts to coerce the coy out of their shell. A world where the vocal are the majority and the taciturn, the minority. A world that demands you be confident, or at least fake confidence in order to get everything you want out of life.

I’m not much of a conversationalist. I’m the kind of person who when an individual steps on my feet in public, I choose to overlook because I don’t want to cause a scene, I’d do anything to be out of the spotlight. Whether the person delivers an apology or not is irrelevant to me. What’s the half-hearted sorry going to do anyways? Take away the pain? This is someone I’m probably never going to see again. I’m the girl you’d find sitting awkwardly in a social setting because I’m overthinking what I should say. I’m the girl who would smile through inconvenience, trying not to upset anyone or be the centre of attention.

Life is hard, it’s even harder when you’re being misunderstood eighty percent of the time. When your silence is misconstrued as pride or impudence. When declining an invitation to an event is viewed as arrogance. When not knowing what to say is perceived as impoliteness.

How could you be so rude? He was talking to you and you didn’t even acknowledge him with a reply?” she says. How then can I reply, “I didn’t know what to say” ?

When your very nature is seen as a glitch and who you are, anomalous. When a large percentage of the people you know try to cure you from your very essence. When being shy is childish and immature.

 Opportunities slip through your fingers because people take one look at you and deem you not good enough. Quietness is illegal and loudness is the currency.

Writing presents an acceptable outlet, I tell the things I really should say out loud.

While I might never be the girl who would embrace open confrontations, I might not be the girl who strides with confidence in her every step, I might shrivel in the spotlight and I might never give a speech in public without the fear of dropping dead.

I deserve equal chances as my vocal counterparts, quiet is not a defect.

I will speak up in the only way I know how, in the only way my voice is at its loudest- writing, because the pen is as mighty as the sword.

I’ll make sure that my silence is the loudest fucking thing in the room.

( Yours truly, seated in the back of a bus overthinking what pitch to call “Charlie boy”)

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Published by Adora

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31 thoughts on ““Speak up!”

  1. The last few lines are truly powerful! Truly, silence makes the loudest noise.
    Could relate strongly to your thoughts. Personally, I find people who don’t cause a scene or don’t throw a fuss all the time to be more likeable.
    And you are in great company. Most accomplished people are introverts. Loved this brave post! 👌

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  2. It’s a lieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, you? If people heard half the things you had to say, they’d run😂😂😂😂 you that is not nice?

    But it’s true, though I’m perceived to be an outspoken person, sometimes I’m shy and then people won’t understand. Writing creates a very free world where it’s just you and your ink, anywhere, anytime and that’s a beauty that is highly underrated ✨

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    1. Well, I have people I’m very comfortable with and you’re at the top of my list, my dear. So thank you for being you. I know I’m not nice 😂😂😂

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  3. Hahahahaha av Loved this so!
    Many of us are introverted and resonate so much with what you have illustrated here.
    Many a time, people have referred to me proud simply because I chose to avoid replying to a coy greeting when in actual sense I was at a loss of what to respond! Am the kind who hated crowds with a passion and would never want anything to do with outings but my extroverted friends would never understand, they would call me you weird. So, due to the piece of mind of many, av tried to ‘fit in’ and man up courage and try to be more social and do the little pleasantries society has labelled a must and acceptable.

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    1. For some extroverts, they find it hard to grasp that we don’t know what to say. I’ve been labelled proud numerous times also.
      Maybe introverts should have been created in a different planet😆😂.
      I think every quiet person struggles with having to fit into this “loud” world

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  4. I think you are right that society often seems to favor the extrovert. That said, I think that society would be better off if we, extroverts (I’m a total extrovert myself) and introverts alike, would at times, pause on the talking and do more actual listening. That’s not to say that people shouldn’t speak up and share – they certainly should – but that productive conversation only happens between parties willing to listen to each other. Otherwise, it’s just shouting into the void.

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  5. You nailed it.
    I feel like a lot of times the society just wants us to talk more because the sound of our silence is too much for them to handle.
    That’s okay, a lot more goes on in the brain when there is silence.
    Really great post, that is for sharing.

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